No More Dinners And Expensive Dates For First Date
I just got this email from a reader, he was so angry it was like you could feel the anger in his words.
Here’s his email, then read my response.
HIS EMAIL:
Albert wrote:
I WAS ON MATCH FOR ONE MONTH IT IS NOT WHAT IS IS CRACKED UP TO BE. NEVER MET ANY ONE. THEY WANT MONEY AND A HARLEY. NOT HONESTY THEY WANT A FREE RIDE TO EVERY THING.
WHY ELSE IS IT UNWRITEN THAT ON A DATE THAT WOMEN NEVER TAKE ALONG A PURSE. THEY DONT HAVE TO PAY FOR ANY THING .
THEY DONT CALL MEN AND ASK US OUT AND WANT TO PAY SO DONT HAND ME ALL THIS GARBAGE ABOUT NICE WOMEN. THEY DONT EXIST. IF YOU TAKE THEM OUT THEY PLAY THIS GAME LIKE THEY ARE TO GOOD FOR YOU BUT AFTER A FEW DRINKS THEY WANT YOU IN BED( NOT ENTERESTED) THEN THEY AFTER ABOUT 45 DAYS THEY DONT KNOW YOU ANY MORE THEY ARE ON TO SOMETHING ELSE. THEY ALL LIE.
MY RESPONSE:
Wow. Albert, I can feel the anger. I feel your pain man, there were MANY nights I felt like you did when I was starting out with all this stuff.
Many times… And let me tell you, the feeling sucked.
I’d be driving home frustrated because yet another dated went south, or yet another girl I was interested in flaked out.
If I told you I was just as frustrated as you are now, I’d be lying… I was even MORE frustrated!
Why? imagine finally being able to get a girl to meet you and then getting poor results each and every time you’d meet someone.
Then suddenly things started to change…
Imagine the feeling of knowing on any day, at any time you could get online, and in under an hour you could have a woman you’ve never met before, never spoken to before email you her number…
And most of your work is done with a simple COPY & PASTE!
That’s the power of online dating, it’s easy, once you have the system in place. The hardest part however, is actually setting up this system.
It took me about 4 years to set it up, using 30-50 profiles at the same time to test out what worked and what didn’t.
Fortunately you don’t have to go to such great extremes.
Albert, I’ve met as of now over 400 women from match in the last 4 or so years… it works pretty well for me.
And many other guys.
You mention the purse thing, but hey Albert credit cards and cash don’t take up a lot of room. Slim purses are in style.
I think one of the deeper issue is that you’re playing by someone else’s rules…
Society’s rules and women’s rules. Why put what someone else wants before YOUR wants?
You’ve got to make sure YOU are happy.
A woman wants a free ride? thats cool, I respect that, but she’s not getting it from me.
She’s done… I move on. Next.
Here are a couple of thoughts based on reading your email:
Who cares what the woman wants? Your ONLY goal when you initially meet a woman is to see if she’s someone YOU might be interested in. If she isn’t going with my program so to speak, then thats it. Done. Next.
I don’t place any value on women when I meet them initially, whereas you are.
Why are you taking women on dates?
Why are you taking women ANYWHERE?
Why are you spending a lot of money on them?
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INsider Internet Dating Tip:
Get together with women for an after dinner drink. Have a drink or 2 — thats IT.
No more dinners, expensive dates.
Don’t spend a lot of money, and by doing it this way, you show the woman your time is important. Then let her know you’ll speak with her later.
If things are going well, move on over to the next place, or even your place.
This tip alone just saved you more money than you could ever realize. Please go back and re-read it.
In the program I show you a slick little technique I use so I don’t end up paying, and I talk ALL about the first get togethers… in detail.
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I’m a big believer in the theory of:
Better questions = Better answers
Albert, Your question should be:
“What am I doing in those 45 days to cause them to loose interest and leave?”
THAT is the underlying issue. It’s got nothing to do with where or how you met these women, it has to do with what you’re saying/doing within those 45 days to cause a woman to loose interest.
At the end of the day, it comes down to you, you’re the one responsible for what happens.
It wasn’t until I accepted this fact that my results started to change. I had to realize that it wasn’t the woman’s fault, it was me.
I wasn’t as ’sharp’ as I could have been and *I* slipped… and because I slipped for a while things didn’t workout.
I remember saying that same sentence after a girlfriend had broke up with me ON MY BIRTHDAY!
Ultimately it was my fault. I had become so comfortable with this girlfriend that I felt I didn’t have to ’stay sharp’…
Because of that I turned into…. a wuss.
Fast forward to today, the present time. I learned something VERY valuable from having that girlfriend break up with me on my birthday…
… And it wasn’t until I met this ‘Mystery Guy’ in Ibiza, Spain that this lesson would REALLY hit home.
Keep reading this post to learn what that is.
in the meantime, remember this formula:
MYSTERY = INTRIGUE = INTEREST
This is my basic formula for attraction. Naturally, the opposite holds true as well:
NO MYSTERY = NO INTRIGUE = NO INTEREST
These days I RARELY call women, usually they’re calling me, because I’m too busy. If they don’t call thats THEIR loss not mine.
I have a life filled with things I’m passionate about, and it’s THOSE passions which make me attractive.
Remember Albert, YOU are the prize. You are the one who’s giving them yourself. You can choose to spend your time with someone else or doing someTHING else and you’re giving that woman a chance.
THAT is the mindset… that is the reason why you’re not having the success you want meeting women online.
If you change the way you’re thinking about this, then your actions will change and THEN the techniques come into play (i.e. what to say and not to say)
In the meantime, keep going out and meeting women, when the right one comes along, you’ll know and because you’ve taken the time to get better at meeting women, you’ll be prepared, bringing your ‘A’ game.
If you want a complete system for meeting women online from someone who’s used the same system to meet over 398 women in 4 years, then the Insider Internet Dating program is a no-brainer.
I think every guy, including you and me would love to have 1 great woman in their lives.
But the only way you’re going to get a woman into your life is by going out to meet women…
Now you can keep doing what you’ve been doing, and struggle to meet women in bars and clubs…
You can keep trying to meet women online, but without a roadmap you’re nothing but lost…
*OR* you can give the Insider Internet Dating program a fair shot.
If you’ve read this far, and if you’ve read any of the other material I share I know you’ve got a sincere interest in improving this area of your life.
What if, you went through the insider internet dating program, and this is the tricky part, what if you started meeting women online right away?
No rejection, no approaching women… send out a few emails and the phone numbers come rolling in.
How many other regular guys would you have to see before you changed your mind about using the Insider Internet Dating program?
I can’t take the next step for you, all I can do is show you the door.
I’ve shown you the door. The next step is up to you.
Consider this…
What if watching this one program helped you meet more women… all from the comfort of your home?
What if listening to it helped you meet just ONE great girl? What would that be worth to you?
What if it made you two, three, four or more times as effective as you WOULD have been without it?
What’s the value of getting double or triple your normal results?
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To your dating success,
Dave M.