Online Dating And Seduction Secrets

I just got this email from a reader, he was so angry it was like you could feel the anger in his words.

Here’s his email, then read my response.

HIS EMAIL:

Albert wrote:

I WAS ON MATCH FOR ONE MONTH IT IS NOT WHAT IS IS CRACKED UP TO BE. NEVER MET ANY ONE. THEY WANT MONEY AND A HARLEY. NOT HONESTY THEY WANT A FREE RIDE TO EVERY THING.

WHY ELSE IS IT UNWRITEN THAT ON A DATE THAT WOMEN NEVER TAKE ALONG A PURSE. THEY DONT HAVE TO PAY FOR ANY THING .

THEY DONT CALL MEN AND ASK US OUT AND WANT TO PAY SO DONT HAND ME ALL THIS GARBAGE ABOUT NICE WOMEN. THEY DONT EXIST. IF YOU TAKE THEM OUT THEY PLAY THIS GAME LIKE THEY ARE TO GOOD FOR YOU BUT AFTER A FEW DRINKS THEY WANT YOU IN BED( NOT ENTERESTED) THEN THEY AFTER ABOUT 45 DAYS THEY DONT KNOW YOU ANY MORE THEY ARE ON TO SOMETHING ELSE. THEY ALL LIE.

MY RESPONSE:

Wow. Albert, I can feel the anger. I feel your pain man, there were MANY nights I felt like you did when I was starting out with all this stuff.

Many times… And let me tell you, the feeling sucked.

I’d be driving home frustrated because yet another dated went south, or yet another girl I was interested in flaked out.

If I told you I was just as frustrated as you are now, I’d be lying… I was even MORE frustrated!

Why? imagine finally being able to get a girl to meet you and then getting poor results each and every time you’d meet someone.

Then suddenly things started to change…

Imagine the feeling of knowing on any day, at any time you could get online, and in under an hour you could have a woman you’ve never met before, never spoken to before email you her number…

And most of your work is done with a simple COPY & PASTE!

That’s the power of online dating, it’s easy, once you have the system in place. The hardest part however, is actually setting up this system.

It took me about 4 years to set it up, using 30-50 profiles at the same time to test out what worked and what didn’t.

Fortunately you don’t have to go to such great extremes.

Albert, I’ve met as of now over 400 women from match in the last 4 or so years… it works pretty well for me.

And many other guys.

You mention the purse thing, but hey Albert credit cards and cash don’t take up a lot of room. Slim purses are in style.

I think one of the deeper issue is that you’re playing by someone else’s rules…

Society’s rules and women’s rules. Why put what someone else wants before YOUR wants?

You’ve got to make sure YOU are happy.

A woman wants a free ride? thats cool, I respect that, but she’s not getting it from me.

She’s done… I move on. Next.

Here are a couple of thoughts based on reading your email:

Who cares what the woman wants? Your ONLY goal when you initially meet a woman is to see if she’s someone YOU might be interested in. If she isn’t going with my program so to speak, then thats it. Done. Next.

I don’t place any value on women when I meet them initially, whereas you are.

Why are you taking women on dates?

Why are you taking women ANYWHERE?

Why are you spending a lot of money on them?

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INsider Internet Dating Tip:

Get together with women for an after dinner drink. Have a drink or 2 — thats IT.

No more dinners, expensive dates.

Don’t spend a lot of money, and by doing it this way, you show the woman your time is important. Then let her know you’ll speak with her later.

If things are going well, move on over to the next place, or even your place.

This tip alone just saved you more money than you could ever realize. Please go back and re-read it.

In the program I show you a slick little technique I use so I don’t end up paying, and I talk ALL about the first get togethers… in detail.

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I’m a big believer in the theory of:

Better questions = Better answers

Albert, Your question should be:

“What am I doing in those 45 days to cause them to loose interest and leave?”

THAT is the underlying issue. It’s got nothing to do with where or how you met these women, it has to do with what you’re saying/doing within those 45 days to cause a woman to loose interest.

At the end of the day, it comes down to you, you’re the one responsible for what happens.

It wasn’t until I accepted this fact that my results started to change. I had to realize that it wasn’t the woman’s fault, it was me.

I wasn’t as ’sharp’ as I could have been and *I* slipped… and because I slipped for a while things didn’t workout.

I remember saying that same sentence after a girlfriend had broke up with me ON MY BIRTHDAY!

Ultimately it was my fault. I had become so comfortable with this girlfriend that I felt I didn’t have to ’stay sharp’…

Because of that I turned into…. a wuss.

Fast forward to today, the present time. I learned something VERY valuable from having that girlfriend break up with me on my birthday…

… And it wasn’t until I met this ‘Mystery Guy’ in Ibiza, Spain that this lesson would REALLY hit home.

Keep reading this post to learn what that is.

in the meantime, remember this formula:

MYSTERY = INTRIGUE = INTEREST

This is my basic formula for attraction. Naturally, the opposite holds true as well:

NO MYSTERY = NO INTRIGUE = NO INTEREST

These days I RARELY call women, usually they’re calling me, because I’m too busy. If they don’t call thats THEIR loss not mine.

I have a life filled with things I’m passionate about, and it’s THOSE passions which make me attractive.

Remember Albert, YOU are the prize. You are the one who’s giving them yourself. You can choose to spend your time with someone else or doing someTHING else and you’re giving that woman a chance.

THAT is the mindset… that is the reason why you’re not having the success you want meeting women online.

It starts from within…

If you change the way you’re thinking about this, then your actions will change and THEN the techniques come into play (i.e. what to say and not to say)

In the meantime, keep going out and meeting women, when the right one comes along, you’ll know and because you’ve taken the time to get better at meeting women, you’ll be prepared, bringing your ‘A’ game.

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I think every guy, including you and me would love to have 1 great woman in their lives.

But the only way you’re going to get a woman into your life is by going out to meet women…

Now you can keep doing what you’ve been doing, and struggle to meet women in bars and clubs…

You can keep trying to meet women online, but without a roadmap you’re nothing but lost…

*OR* you can give the Insider Internet Dating program a fair shot.

If you’ve read this far, and if you’ve read any of the other material I share I know you’ve got a sincere interest in improving this area of your life.

What if, you went through the insider internet dating program, and this is the tricky part, what if you started meeting women online right away?

No rejection, no approaching women… send out a few emails and the phone numbers come rolling in.

How many other regular guys would you have to see before you changed your mind about using the Insider Internet Dating program?

I can’t take the next step for you, all I can do is show you the door.

I’ve shown you the door. The next step is up to you.

Consider this…

What if watching this one program helped you meet more women… all from the comfort of your home?

What if listening to it helped you meet just ONE great girl? What would that be worth to you?

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To your dating success,

Dave M.

This little maneuver has become one of my favorite ways to really screw with a woman’s head. Basically it goes like this:

You’re out on a date and you can tell both of you had a good time and enjoyed each other’s company. Now the evening (or afternoon or whatever) is drawing to a close and both of you are in that “goodbye kiss anticipation zone” that I’m sure everybody knows and dreads just as much as I do.

Finally you come to a stop in front of her door and, whether you end up walking her up from the driveway or just staying in the car, you ask her that Most Dreaded Question:

“Can I kiss you?”

To which she has two options for an answer. And if she actually did have a good time with you she will use the most favorable one. She’ll smile coyly and say “Yes” softly, like only the ladies can.

Now you say this: “Alright then. I’ll be sure to do that someday.” Shake her hand or just smile and wink, but get on your way as soon as you can.

I guarantee that she’ll be left standing there with her mouth hanging open wondering exactly what the hell just happened. And over the next few days she’s going to really start itching for that kiss from you.

When she does see you again, the sheer anticipation of when, where, and how that kiss is going to happen will literally drive her nuts… because she knows you want to kiss her and that it is going to come sooner or later. But she can never know the answers to when, where, and how because you’re never going to give her any clues. And you’re going to act like nothing is up in the slightest. Pretend you forgot the incident even happened.

When you finally do decide to give her that smooch, just do it (but try to determine if she’s in the mood for it; odds are she will be). UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES ARE YOU TO ASK AGAIN! You’ve already asked and she already said yes, remember? It’ll be a damn good kiss, believe me.

This has always worked wonders for me.

I gave out that kiss to one girl after just running into her on the street and we ended up spending the rest of the day (and most of the next morning) together. With another one I was at an amusement park and the damn Ferris Wheel got jammed and we were stuck dangling in the air for fifteen minutes. I gave her a little peck and we basically ended up doing the grind up there until we started moving again.

And another girl actually tried wrestling that kiss out of me immediately after I pulled the “someday” line on her. Somehow I managed to get away from her. But when I kissed her on our second date at a red traffic light after leaving the restaurant, she told me to forget about the movie and come home with her.

A first date can be quite expensive. A movie rendezvous, for instance, will empty your wallet by as much as $35, according to Match.com, an online dating service that annually compiles a cost-of-dating index. Dinner and theater tickets can easily add up to $300.

But without dinner and a movie–the bedrock of dating–what do you do? I asked seasoned daters (really, just about any 20-something) and looked at more formal survey results, and found that the possibilities are almost endless.

Talk with your date

When Match.com asked 1,000 of its members to describe their ideal first date, the majority picked activities that actually let you get to know the person. Incidentally, says Kristin Kelly, a Match.com spokeswoman, “these types of dates are the ones you can do most cost effectively.”

Noisy restaurants and bars often overwhelm conversation. Instead, opt for a subdued coffeehouse, where you’ll drop just $7.37 on average.

Or take a walk in the park, which 70 percent of daters said they would favor. Joshua Nettinga, a 24-year-old law student, recently enjoyed an afternoon with his girlfriend at the Jefferson National Forest in Pembroke, Va. For quintessential romance–the park’s highlight is a waterfall framed by cliffs and foliage. They paid $2.

Be a tourist

Many of us live in cities with museums and attractions that tourists flock to en masse but that we never visit. These venues are ideal date settings, and often you can snatch discounted student tickets or go on freebie nights.

Amy Turner, a 25-year-old who works in community relations in Seattle, turns to the 2005 Greater Seattle/Eastside Entertainment book (entertainment.com; $35) to help defray dating costs. “It has tons of 2-for-1 coupons,” she says, for restaurants, seaplane rides, kayak rentals and other local diversions.

Read up

Check out the newspaper and online city guides. Every major and minor city hosts some form of free entertainment during the summer. This weekend, with 4th of July celebrations, is a perfect example. To learn about these types of events, simply pick up a local newspaper or log on to online city guides, such as citysearch.com.

In Chicago, for instance, you’ll uncover a long list of summer festivals, including the Taste of Chicago, and the Outdoor Film Festival, which starts July 12 and is free.

Dine creatively

Using New York magazine’s online version, newyorkmetro.com, I came across an article about dessert dining. Apparently, restaurants and cafes throughout New York offer prix fixe dessert menus, ranging from $11 to $30 a person.

Sweets with your sweetie for a reasonable price: For one, it is proof again that a little research can yield some fun ideas. But secondly, it shows that skipping dinner out and opting for other choices, such as dessert, generally is more affordable.

In fact, lunch and Sunday brunches can cost half or even a third of the price of a sit-down meal in the evening.

Then, of course, you can always buy groceries, spread out a blanket and picnic.

Sara Rosen, a 23-year-old program associate for a New York-based foundation, recently did that with her boyfriend. They biked to Prospect Park in Brooklyn and set up before the bandshell to take in a free performance, while munching on snacks that they toted with them.

Noticing a trend here? Get outside, get creative and save your cash for the anniversary dates. Good luck!

(info by Carolyn Bigda from http://www.chicagotribune.com/business/chi-0507030200jul03,1,1836993.story?coll=chi-business-hed&ctrack=1&cset=true)