Online Dating And Seduction Secrets

According to various internet statistics, there are over 50 million active subscribers to dating services…. that’s just in the U.S. alone.

If you’re single and looking, this is something you absolutely should NOT overlook.

Arguably the biggest hurdle most guys have to overcome is that very FIRST email. I get emails daily from guys asking exactly what they should put in their emails so they get read and responded to.

Because of my direct marketing background, and being a fanatical tester of what works and what doesn’t work, I’ve been able to isolate several key factors which should always be present when you’re communicating to a woman online.

More about those in a minute…

Before we get to them, let’s talk about something even more important to your success in writing compelling emails.

What’s Going On In Her Head?

The more successful you are at putting yourself in a woman’s shoes who’s using the internet to meet guys, the more successful you’ll be in getting women to respond to your emails.

The more sensitive you are to what she’s going through, the more persuasive you can be, the more rapport you can have with her, and consequently, the more she’ll trust and agree with you.

Put yourself in the shoes of a woman who’s being bombarded with emails daily from men.

When you’re trying to create that interest with a woman online, you need to create rapport, a great way is to ‘make yourself like her’.

What common interests do you share?

Was there something in her profile that caught your eye?

You shouldn’t forget that with email, people generally see it as more private/personal than your profile… people know that a profile is written for everyone to see.

When you send an email, the perception is that it should be personal, because emails typically are personal in nature. Therefore, use this to your advantage

It’s absolutely critical you write as if you’re speaking to ONLY HER. Don’t speak AT her, or TO her, speak with her.

Some keys to emails that get women to reply:

Personalize

You MUST personalize every message you send out. Women have a BS detector and can smell a copy and paste email a mile away. Even if you just use her screen name 1 time, make it personal.

Talk about her profile, let her know in some way that you actually READ her profile.

Compliment

Compliment her on something you find interesting about her… something you’re intrigued about. Remember the best way to get someone interested in you is to become interested in them first. I have this 2 step system I use called:

Engage & Expand

Rather than tell you all about it, here’s a quick example:

To ENGAGE, you can say something such as:

‘I read you’re into _____ Thats really cool.’

Then you EXPAND on it by adding:

‘I’ve always been interested in _____, how long have you been into it?’

Very simple, but VERY VERY effective.

An Intriguing Subject Line

What’s the very first thing a woman sees when you send her an email?

No, it’s not your photo, no it’s not your email… it’s your subject line. What you place in that subject line is critical to your email even getting open.

The subject line should create intrique and almost force the woman to want to open it… because it’s compelling.

Women will tend to open emails if they’re more conversational in style and more personal, rather than generic.

How To Ensure Your Email Gets Read

I always suggest looking through your own inbox and seeing the subject lines which stand out to you. Which ones capture your attention IMMEDIATELY?

In your subject lines mention something unique about her profile. For instance… If she’s into shooting pool, your subject could be something like:

‘Hey [her screen name], so you think you can shoot pool?’

What Do You Say First?

The first sentance is arguably the part most guys have the biggest problems with. If the subject is the most important part of the email itself, then the 1st sentance is the most important part of the body.

The goal of your first sentance should be to introduce yourself and to estabilish rapport. Start by saying something you’d say to a friend.

Make sure your emails are written in a conversational style… like you’re emailing a friend of yours. You can ALWAYS tell when someone’s sending a copy and paste email…. because the email is usually very ambiguous and says nothing specific about that woman’s profile.

Then What?

You have an intriguing subject line, an inviting first sentance, used some humor in the email, and now you’ve got to seal the deal.

This is where you need to insert a CTA. This stands for Call To Action. Simply put, what do you want the woman to do as a result of reading the email?

Answer that question and you have your CTA.

I have a rule with each step in my system….

Every step only has ONE CTA. This is where most guys mess things up. They give women too many options, or none at all.

Tell the woman what you want her to do next, you can say something like…

‘Read the email and get back to me…’ ‘I’ll be looking for your response’ ‘let’s see your answers to the questions…’

If I could show you one simple technique that in 2 minutes would increase the number of responses you currently get on ANY dating site by 32% would you do it?

What if I had a collection of these techniques that took me years to test and perfect, would you want to use them?

Of course, and that’s why guys are going crazy about this.

No other dating coach has ever revealed information this sensitive.

For years I’ve kept this information quiet.

You have probably heard the buzz that I finally released my ‘Insider Internet Dating Program’ to the public.

Dating coach Rod Cortez said: ‘In the first month, I set up TEN DATES in one week and have actually been turning women down because I’m so BUSY meeting new hotties. ‘

David De’Angleo calls me an online dating ‘Specialist’

This simple multimedia program is probably the most powerful thing I’ve ever created.

Read that again. These simple techniques will increase the number of women who respond to your emails and the number of dates you get by 35% (at least). How can you do this?

Well, it’s quite easy to use, and purely scientific.

These aren’t just theories and guesses - these are *specific* things you can do right now that will increase the number of women who respond to your emails and the number of dates you get.

And each of these techniques have been *scientifically* proven.

It reveals the results of years of research conducted by me online showing *exactly* the simple techniques I use that dramatically increase the number of women who respond to your emails and the number of dates you get.

One of these techniques increased my responses by a clearly measurable 412%.

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To your dating success,

Dave M.

Being desirable is the key to successful online dating. If you’re not desirable then no woman will want you.

Simple concept.

Well being on Instant Messenger, chatting with a woman for hours and hours on end is NOT something that a desirable guy would normally do.

After all if you’re desirable then you probably have other women to see (or so she’ll think) and you probably have a lot better things to do than spend hours chatting with some random chick online.

The other problem is this…

The more available you are, the less of a mystery you are. Remember my formula for seduction:

Mystery = Intrigue = Interest

so more mystery is a good thing. It makes the woman wonder… and as she wonders, she becomes more intrigued with you or about you… that intrigue creates more interest.

The less of a mystery you are, the less results you’re going to get. After all, you are a desirable guy, you’ve got girls interested in you and you don’t have the time to sit ther and tell each girl EVERYTHING about you on day one.

So you give her a bit here, and a little bit there.

As I learned from David D. ‘Give her the gift of missing you.’

This saying is SO true. Take this to heart. It works.

See if you’re on IM with a woman, not only do you lower your value to her, because she sees you’ve got nothing better to do than to chat her up for hours…

But…

It also lets her see exactly when you’re home, and when you’re not. She knows where you are ALL the time!

I mean seriously. How many times have you asked a girl for her IM INSTEAD of her number? If you’re like me, that would be never.

It’s the women who always ask for your IM because they’re hesitant to talk on the phone.

It’s a test. If you give in and give her your IM screen name, you’ve just failed. Game over.

She’ll know you’re a wuss and she can own you. She’ll know you’re WAY too available and this is something you want to avoid at ALL costs.

If she emails you back asking for your IM screen name, do this:

IGNORE IT.

Make believe she never asked for it. Remember, your frame is what matters, not what she thinks or wants. You don’t even know this girl, so why do what she wants?

I know some guys want ‘how-to’ type stuff, so…

WHAT CAN YOU SAY TO A WOMAN WHO ASKS FOR YOUR IM?

This is pretty much what I use word for word. Make sure you take the time to customize it to the way YOU talk. Using YOUR own words.

So you basically ignore her request and respond with:

Hey (her name),

Part 1: I’m too busy to IM…

Part 2: lets talk on the phone…

Part 3: what’s your number….

Take these 3 steps and create an email based on this.

Remember this…

Some women will choose to respond and some won’t. This is the way of life, but as long as you continually focus on YOUR goals and improve yourself, more women will choose to join you in your ‘adventures’.

What’s really beneficial, and specially stands out about the Insider Internet Dating program is…

Instead of taking about meeting women online, you know how most books, seminars and courses they just talk about how to do it.

They tell you what you SHOULD be doing, but with Insider Internet Dating I show you, in real - life, in real-time, step-by-step…

HOW to meet women online.

And I believe THAT’S one of the key factors that’s made such a big difference and has contributed to the success of the students you see on the website and read about in these newsletters.

Instead of saying this is what you SHOULD do, now go out and figure it out yourself…

You see LIVE as if you were with me, in person, CONCRETE-CLEAR instructions on not only what to do, but HOW to do it.

This is the difference between THEORY and application.

It’s one thing to say why something works or could it work or should it work…

And its another thing to say this is EXACTLY HOW to make it work.

There’s no wondering what to do, there’s no guesswork…

Follow step 1, then go to step 2, then go to step 3 and so on…

And THAT’S the big difference.

With all these other programs and ebooks, they’re MISSING the application. What people ultimately want is the HOW TO.

‘Dave, just tell me how to do it’

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To your dating success,

Dave M.

Let me ask you an important question:

How many women would you have met if you were one of the FIRST guys meeting women on myspace?

I’m not kidding… think about it for a second. What did you come up with?

Ten? Twenty? … Ninety?

You might have a SECOND CHANCE thanks to a new kid on the block… And experts predict this new ‘kid’ could very well be the NEXT Myspace, and is poised to explode.

A NEW PROBLEM WITH MYSPACE….

Unless you’ve been living under a rock you’ve heard about Myspace.

Have also you noticed how WIERD myspace has been lately?

In the last year it has BLOWN-UP, However this has lead to a slight problem…

Because of the massive amount of media attention, myspace has been attracting more of an adult crowd (which is a completely different demographic than it had before.)

According to MediaMetrix, Over 50% of myspace users are now age 35 or older, and 68-71% of their user base is 25 and older.

The site’s demographics continue to shift.

… And thats where bebo comes in.

You see many of the under 35 crowd of myspace users don’t think its ‘cool’ anymore to hang out with adults…

So they’re hauling butt to bebo.

And the stats don’t lie either. Get this, In the 2006 year end Google Zeitgeist, (published last month) listed bebo as their TOP mover

ABOVE myspace!

So why am I telling you all about bebo?

Because this new site COULD be a fantastic way of meeting more women, and armed with Insider Internet Dating you’ll be able to infiltrate the site, and CLEAN HOUSE.

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To your dating success,

Dave M.

The other day, I went to one of those internet personals sites and answered a bunch of ads. I wrote to some ladies, and then decided to pick one woman with a great smile and simply typed this:

Hey, I was looking through the personals and saw your ad. I just thought you had the prettiest smile and thought I would let you know.

That’s it. And it worked! She’s the only one who wrote back.

(thanks to Frank)

I’m sitting here at home, on my apple laptop, and without even leaving my bedroom I was able to find 20 new women I was somewhat interested in on a couple of dating websites I use.

I sent them each an email.

An email that I SLIGHTLY modified for each of them, and within 45 minutes… I was sitting with 13 responses.

Sent 20, got 13 responses. (keep following)

NOT BAD FOR 5 MINUTES OF ‘WORK’

(if you call it work, its pretty much just COPY AND PASTE)

UNfortunately, like you and I both know, having a woman responding to your initial email, doesn’t mean you’re going to be able to get their number.

(although I have do an unfair advantage IID)

I THEN SENT THEM ANOTHER COPY AND PASTE EMAIL..

And within 2 hours, I had 10 new emails conaining the phone numbers of 10 lovely (and attractive) women who are all *VERY* eager to speak to me.

Sent 20, got 13 responses. Got 10 phone numbers (not bad but I ended up with another reply with phone number later on in the day. I ended up 12 numbers.

For some guys reading this, what I just mentioned sounds like a scene from of a movie.

It just doesn’t seem real.

I can totally relate because a few years ago this used to be nothing more than a fantasy for me too!

Now his fantasy is a typical day for me.

It’s not really hard to get a woman to respond and then give you her phone number… IF you understand the PROCESS behind meeting women on the internet.

Exactly what did I send these 20 women that was so interesting they were FORCED to write back?

Simple, I’ll tell you in a second, but before I get to that let me explain something very relevant and very important.

One of the things I talk about in the program is my ‘templates’. They’re basically email sequences I’ve tested and refined over 4 years.

Copy and paste templates for every type of situation you may run across when meeting women online.

And I mean EVERY situation.

Constantly refining them over and over until they were so GOOD women wouldn’t even know you sent something similar to 30 OTHER women as well.

Ok, back to what I sent to these 20 women…

Heres the sequence I sent them:

STEP 1: INTRODUCTION

Mention something about what you really think about meeting women thru the internet

STEP 2: MENTION SOMETHING FUNNY ABOUT HER PROFILE

Yes, I’m talking about you picking on her. If there’s something she’s wearing, a pose she’s in, the type of photo or something she says bust on her for it!

(this is where the email is customized for each individual women)

STEP 3: TELL HER BRIEFLY ABOUT YOURSELF

Take 1 small sentence and highlight something about yourself. Remember to keep it *very* BRIEF.

STEP 4: CALL TO ACTION

What do you want her to do after she reads this email?

Tell her what you’d like her to do.

STEP 5: SIGN OFF

This is where you place your name and your email address… make sure you use the right format or it will be filtered out and she won’t see it.

That is what I sent all of them. Thats the EXACT sequence I used… Next week odds are I’ll use a different sequence and perhaps it might work even better than this one.

I’m always trying out new things.

WHAT HAPPENS AFTER SHE RESPONDS?

Just like I show you in the program, I simply copied and pasted my ‘phone number’ email, which pretty much always gets you their phone number.

Yes, it REALLY is this easy.

That sequence I’ve tested and refined COUNTLESS number of times and its only one of SEVERAL that I have and one of about 8 that I share with you inside the Insider Internet Dating program.

WHAT IF YOU WANT TO CREATE YOUR OWN TEMPLATE?

Heres what you’d have to do:

STEP 1. Create an email

STEP 2. Create another version of it only change something in it.

STEP 3. Send both out with SEPARATE headlines so you can keep track of which one gets more responses.

STEP 4. The one that gets more responses you keep, the other? Get rid of it.

STEP 5. Rinse wash repeat. That means just do the same thing over again.

I must tell you…

For your sequence to have anywhere near the effectiveness that mine have, you’re going to have to conduct around 423 tests.

What I mean is you’re going to have to do that whole set of steps I just mentioned 423 DIFFERENT times!

Yes, I know it’s crazy… and I’m nuts for doing it, but I actually conducted around 423 tests that took me over 3 years to do.

I tested ALL kinds of stuff…. from headlines, openers, questions to ask, days of the week to email and a whole lot more.

If you’ve got all that time on your hands, and the energy to do it then by all means go for it.

For most of us, thats NOT an option.

99% of us don’t have time, we work and turning dating into a scientific experiment isn’t something we consider fun.

ESPECIALLY after a day of listening to your boss, or dealing with customers.

In fact, if I had to do it again, I probably wouldn’t be able to do it… it was THAT much work.

What you now see is the end result of this hard work. (i.e. more results in less time.)

That is what meeting women online is about…

More results, with less effort. Meeting women online the way I do it, is so much fun because you know exactly what you have to do each step of the way and it doesn’t take much time to do.

If you’re reading these emails and saying to yourself ‘I really need to improve what I’m doing’ because you’re NOT getting the results you want with meeting women online then I couldn’t agree with you more.

Getting success with this part of your life doesn’t just ‘Happen’.

Sure you might have some good experiences here and there because you were either speaking to the right girl at the right time or got a girl that was more needy than you were…

But consistent success with meeting women online is the result of knowing EXACTLY what do do each step of the way and then being able to do it.

Its about learning the exact PROCESS.

I have the most amazing education system for meeting women off the internet that will teach you just that.

I’ve never published the material you find in Insider Internet Dating. It’s never been part of any course or seminar talk I’ve ever done. No one knows about it except for my own students.

You won’t find it anywhere.

Any guy can use it, it will work on any dating site and it will help you put your dating on AUTOPILOT.

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To your dating success,

Dave M.

This is a question that I’ve been asked a gazillion times by men.

Here’s the typical scenario:

You send an email to a woman, she responds, you send another email asking for her number (using my 2nd email technique) and she DOESN’T respond with her number.

Most guys freak out and are unsure what to do when something like this happens. Maybe you are freaking out because this is happening to you right now.

I think there’s a deeper issue, which is: I’m not sure what to do in this situation, this woman has thrown me a curve-ball and I’m not prepared.

What do you do?

Most guys freak out, their confidence is shaken and they’re lost because they were thrown a curve-ball.

EXPECT WOMEN TO TEST YOU RIGHT AWAY!

Sometimes women don’t even realize they’re testing you… its hardwired into their brains.

The more attractive a woman is, the better she’s become at testing men, and the LESS obvious these tests are.

If you understand and EXPECT women to test you from the start, then you’re prepared for what should happen next.

Imagine being a soldier… if you expect to go into combat, you prepare yourself for what may (or hopefully may not) happen, and you wear body armor.

Point is, you need to be prepared for what may happen on the ‘battlefield’. Make sense?

Odds are you get freaked out because she didn’t follow what she was ’supposed’ to do… i.e. give you her number.

Because you’re unsure of what to do, since you haven’t prepared for it and you don’t want to potentially ruin anything that might be there so you revert to your alter ego…

WUSSIE MAN

Slap yourself back to reality for a second because you can no longer be a wuss. It’s very unattractive.

I won’t let you revert back.

And quite frankly you have no reason to, because you haven’t placed any value on this woman… right?

After all, she is just another email and face at this point UNTIL she proves to you that she’s worth more.

Getting back to the dilemma… She doesn’t respond with her number.

WHAT DO YOU DO?

You email her back, only this time wait at least 3-4 days because lets face it, you don’t want to come off as needy, insecure or desperate.

So waiting is in your favor.

But wait too long and the tension is lost so you don’t want to overdo it.

Since she didn’t respond with her number, She is giving you PERFECT ammo to bust on her!

I’m going to assume she emailed you back and continued with the usual banter most women write…

So you can respond to her email, but do NOT go into details, make sure to keep it short and then you can TOTALLY bust on her for not giving you her number.

He who has the shorter email wins.

WHAT CAN YOU SAY?

1. Bust on her for not having a phone

‘I know why you didn’t respond with your number, its totally cool if you don’t have a phone… we can talk using smoke signals or something.’

2. Bust on her for not paying her phone bill

‘Listen, about the phone, It’s really nothing to be embarrassed about and it doesn’t really change the way I think of you… you know, not paying your phone bill… I have an idea, we could start a collection for you around the neighborhood or something to hook you up.’

3. Use the ‘points’ system… tell her she just lost 5 points for not following your last email and she’s blowing it with you.

Its amazing when you use the concept of ‘She’s blowing it’ with a woman.

Most guys simply give a woman all this value right off the bat, and she knows this guy isn’t worth it, because he’s giving her so much value without her having to work for it.

She’s got this guy whipped!

It’s no challenge for her - and this all takes place BEFORE they meet!

You need to make things into a challenge, and busting on her for not ‘following orders’ is a fantastic way to do it.

And you can totally do this in person too!

Remember, the challenge is whats unpredictable and women LOVE that.

It shows supreme confidence (one of the 5 C’s) and it’s mesmerizing to women.

Point of this article? Expect a woman is going to test you. Because you already expect it, you are not phased by it, instead you already have an answer waiting for her.

It all goes back to this: When it comes to online dating, knowing a little or just enough could be DANGEROUS.

You have to go full throttle or you’ll only get to first base - or strike out altogether.

Listen, what good is getting a woman to respond to your e-mail if you can’t get her phone number?

What good is getting her phone number if you don’t know how to carry on a conversation and get her to agree to go out on a date with you?

What good is getting a date if you don’t know how to get to hold her hand, kiss her (or get her to desire you)?

You get my drift.

Having a killer profile — but no killer strategies when sending out e-mails or making the first phone call or going on the first date — can lead to incongruence, which equals dating failure.

You gotta know what to do every step of the way. And it’s easy when you have my Insider Internet Dating program.

Here’s what I’ll show you:

* The exact profile template that I use (the same one I used to create my Match.com profile that was viewed 18,725 times in 18 months). You can use this template as an outline to create your own

* Some of the absolute best sites where you can get fantastic ideas to get your profile all tricked out - plus a site you can use to test which of your pictures to place on your profile for maximum appeal.

*A fool-proof template for e-mails (not just the first email but the follow-up e-mail , in case you don’t get a response the first time)

* What to say to a woman on the phone so that she’ll agree to go out on a date with you

*How to raise a woman’s attraction to you when you’re out on a date - this includes how to raise the level of intimacy, hold her hand, and kiss her and open up other intimate possibilities on the first date

*Where to take a woman on a date so it won’t cost you too much money, and it will also contribute to intimacy

*What to say at the end of a first date (or what not to say) to keep a woman wanting more of you

… and there’s much more where that came from.

So you see, I don’t just teach you how to get e-mail responses, phone numbers and dates - and then leave you alone to fend for yourself in the real-life dating world.

I show you what to do every step of the way so that you’ll always have the upper hand and keep women interested in you, and even chasing after you.

The beauty of this is that you don’t have to be good-looking to be successful in online dating. You simply have to follow my powerful principles that are scientifically proven to work on the Web.

Don’t try to apply pickup routines that you use in face-to-face encounters in your online dating activities - they don’t work.

Online dating has its own culture and I teach killer ways of communicating which will maximize your dating success. It has a lot to do with understanding the psychology of women and using the medium of the Internet to communicate persuasively.

This is the heart of my Insider Internet Dating program - and that’s why there’s no other online dating resource that even comes close to its effectiveness.

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Meeting an online love interest in person for the first time is an exciting prospect, but safety should be of the utmost concern when planning a rendezvous.

The Wichita Eagle asked several local couples and singles who have dated online for their tips on how to safely navigate a first date.

1. Be honest. Any relationship based on a lie is bound to turn out badly. The truth will have to come out eventually, which will lead to a very awkward situation.

2. Watch out for fake profiles. Some online profiles are staged by companies looking to gain access to your e-mail address and other personal information.

A good indicator that someone may be misleading you is if they are eager to find out your personal information right away. Their photo also might look like a posed image of a model.

3. Share when you’re ready. Take your time when it comes to giving out your phone number. It might even be a good idea to set up a date by e-mail, then share your number and other information if the date goes well.

4. Get the facts. Be wary of people who refuse to share personal information (what they do for a living, their age or appearance, etc.).

5. Go with your gut. If something doesn’t seem quite right, or if you’ve got a bad feeling about someone, chances are you should steer clear.

6. Tell a friend. When you’re meeting someone in person for the first time, let a friend know where and when you’ll be meeting as a precaution, and make sure they’ll be available if you need to get in touch with them.

7. Meet in a public place. It might not be a good idea to invite someone to your home, or to a place where there won’t be other people around. Consider making plans to meet at a restaurant or some other busy locale.

(info from The Wichita Eagle)

QUESTION FROM A READER:

‘Hi, Dave.

Can you offer any guidelines as to what a reasonable response rate is on emails that I send out? Should I be looking for a response from one girl in two? one in five? one in ten? one in twenty?

My response rate now is probably close to one in twenty. That seems pretty awful to me, but maybe that’s par for the course.

One thing I know for sure is that most women I send emails to never even look at my profile — presumably because they are so bombarded with contacts from guys, they’re just mass-deleting. So, if I’m going one for 20, but 15 of the 20 never saw my profile, and may not even have read my email, maybe I’m doing better than I think.’

Daniel B.

MY COMMENTS:

Response rate. Great question. I think it really has to do with what website you’re on, how many guys are in your area, what you’re sending… etc.

In otherwards, there’s a LOT of variables that contribute to how many women will email you back.

And the results change all the time.

I’ve had months where I’d get about 60% responding to my initial email, then the next month that amount would be down to 20%.

Go figure.

In direct response typically when something is mailed for the 1st time, a benchmark response rate is 1% (1 out of 100). If the list is good and your copy is good that could go up to say 3%.

Online with these websites, I’d say if you’re getting 1-5% response to your 1st email, you’re doing ok. You’ll get better the more you do it, and the more you keep refining the emails.

Once you get the right combination, it’s like getting the keys to the kingdom. You’ll have a never ending supply of attractive and available women.

I think you should work on your subject lines 1st. If the women are just mass deleting your email, then you have a CLUE.

You have a starting point. You know that something in that 1st email isn’t working. If it did they’d at least click to view your profile.

So you know its not something in your profile. It can be only 1 of 2 things… your email or your subject.

Start refining both and you’ll start to see improved results.

NB: For more info, you should check the course I created.

This simple multimedia program is probably the most powerful thing I’ve ever created.

Read that again. These simple techniques will increase the number of women who respond to your emails and the number of dates you get by 35% (at least). How can you do this?

Well, it’s quite easy to use, and purely scientific.

These aren’t just theories and guesses - these are *specific* things you can do right now that will increase the number of women who respond to your emails and the number of dates you get.

And each of these techniques have been *scientifically* proven.

It reveals the results of years of research conducted by me online showing *exactly* the simple techniques I use that dramatically increase the number of women who respond to your emails and the number of dates you get.

One of these techniques increased my responses by a clearly measurable 412%.

If I could reach out and grab you through this email I’d shake you to make you realize how important what I’m about to show you is.

What if this program is exactly what you need to turn your dating life around?

There’s a reason people are going crazy for this program.

Don’t you want to know why?

Simply click on the link below to find out all the details:

http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/?af=360251

To your dating success,

Dave M.

According to various internet statistics, there are over 50 million active subscribers to dating services…. that’s just in the U.S. alone.

If you’re single and looking, this is something you absolutely should NOT overlook.

Arguably the biggest hurdle most guys have to overcome is that very FIRST email. I get emails daily from guys asking exactly what they should put in their emails so they get read and responded to.

Because of my direct marketing background, and being a fanatical tester of what works and what doesn’t work, I’ve been able to isolate several key factors which should always be present when you’re communicating to a woman online.

More about those in a minute…

Before we get to them, let’s talk about something even more important to your success in writing compelling emails.

WHAT’S GOING ON IN HER HEAD?

The more successful you are at putting yourself in a woman’s shoes who’s using the internet to meet guys, the more successful you’ll be in getting women to respond to your emails.

The more sensitive you are to what she’s going through, the more persuasive you can be, the more rapport you can have with her, and consequently, the more she’ll trust and agree with you.

Put yourself in the shoes of a woman who’s being bombarded with emails daily from men.

When you’re trying to create that interest with a woman online, you need to create rapport, a great way is to ‘make yourself like her’.

What common interests do you share?

Was there something in her profile that caught your eye?

You shouldn’t forget that with email, people generally see it as more private/personal than your profile… people know that a profile is written for everyone to see.

When you send an email, the perception is that it should be personal, because emails typically are personal in nature. Therefore, use this to your advantage

It’s absolutely critical you write as if you’re speaking to ONLY HER. Don’t speak AT her, or TO her, speak with her.

Some keys to emails that get women to reply:

PERSONALIZE

You MUST personalize every message you send out. Women have a BS detector and can smell a copy and paste email a mile away. Even if you just use her screen name 1 time, make it personal.

Talk about her profile, let her know in some way that you actually READ her profile.

COMPLIMENT

Compliment her on something you find interesting about her… something you’re intrigued about. Remember the best way to get someone interested in you is to become interested in them first. I have this 2 step system I use called:

ENGAGE & EXPAND.

Rather than tell you all about it, here’s a quick example:

To ENGAGE, you can say something such as:

‘I read you’re into _____ Thats really cool.’

Then you EXPAND on it by adding:

‘I’ve always been interested in _____, how long have you been into it?’

Very simple, but VERY VERY effective.

AN INTRIGUING SUBJECT LINE

What’s the very first thing a woman sees when you send her an email?

No, it’s not your photo, no it’s not your email… it’s your subject line. What you place in that subject line is critical to your email even getting open.

The subject line should create intrique and almost force the woman to want to open it… because it’s compelling.

Women will tend to open emails if they’re more conversational in style and more personal, rather than generic.

HOW TO ENSURE YOUR EMAIL GETS READ

I always suggest looking through your own inbox and seeing the subject lines which stand out to you. Which ones capture your attention IMMEDIATELY?

In your subject lines mention something unique about her profile. For instance… If she’s into shooting pool, your subject could be something like:

‘Hey [her screen name], so you think you can shoot pool?’

WHAT DO YOU SAY FIRST?

The first sentance is arguably the part most guys have the biggest problems with. If the subject is the most important part of the email itself, then the 1st sentance is the most important part of the body.

The goal of your first sentance should be to introduce yourself and to estabilish rapport. Start by saying something you’d say to a friend.

Make sure your emails are written in a conversational style… like you’re emailing a friend of yours. You can ALWAYS tell when someone’s sending a copy and paste email…. because the email is usually very ambiguous and says nothing specific about that woman’s profile.

THEN WHAT?

You have an intriguing subject line, an inviting first sentance, used some humor in the email, and now you’ve got to seal the deal.

This is where you need to insert a CTA. This stands for Call To Action. Simply put, what do you want the woman to do as a result of reading the email?

Answer that question and you have your CTA.

I have a rule with each step in my system….

Every step only has ONE CTA. This is where most guys mess things up. They give women too many options, or none at all.

Tell the woman what you want her to do next, you can say something like…

‘Read the email and get back to me…’ ‘I’ll be looking for your response’ ‘let’s see your answers to the questions…’

If I could show you one simple technique that in 2 minutes would increase the number of responses you currently get on ANY dating site by 32% would you do it?

What if I had a collection of these techniques that took me years to test and perfect, would you want to use them?

Of course, and that’s why guys are going crazy about this.

No other dating coach has ever revealed information this sensitive.

For years I’ve kept this information quiet.

You have probably heard the buzz that I finally released my ‘Insider Internet Dating Program’ to the public.

Dating coach Rod Cortez said: ‘In the first month, I set up TEN DATES in one week and have actually been turning women down because I’m so BUSY meeting new hotties. ‘

David De’Angleo calls me an online dating ‘Specialist’

This simple multimedia program is probably the most powerful thing I’ve ever created.

Read that again. These simple techniques will increase the number of women who respond to your emails and the number of dates you get by 35% (at least). How can you do this?

Well, it’s quite easy to use, and purely scientific.

These aren’t just theories and guesses - these are *specific* things you can do right now that will increase the number of women who respond to your emails and the number of dates you get.

And each of these techniques have been *scientifically* proven.

It reveals the results of years of research conducted by me online showing *exactly* the simple techniques I use that dramatically increase the number of women who respond to your emails and the number of dates you get.

One of these techniques increased my responses by a clearly measurable 412%.

If I could reach out and grab you through this email I’d shake you to make you realize how important what I’m about to show you is.

What if this program is exactly what you need to turn your dating life around?

There’s a reason people are going crazy for this program.

Don’t you want to know why?

Simply click on the link below to find out all the details:

http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/?af=360251

To your dating success,

Dave M.

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Cell phones are not just for calling anymore. They went from talking and voice mail, to text messaging, to taking pictures, to tracking our location via GPS (not always necessarily in that order), and now to dating.

Cell phone dating is so popular in some countries, like Japan, that it’s overtaken online dating. Now the phenomenon has spread to the USA to the tune of six million mobile-daters, and more coming onboard everyday. How many might be waiting to “hear” from you?

A web search will turn up mobile dating services like Webdate Mobile, Dodgeball, Zogo, Match Mobil, and SMS Flirt. You still have to go online to register, post profiles and/or pictures, etc., but then it’s all cell phone. As with most anything online you’ll want to check several companies to find the one that’s right for you. It’s important to look for a service that’s compatible with your cell phone model, as well as your carrier.

Webdate’s service requires a web-ready camera phone (more about these at nextel-i930-phone.com). With Dodgeball you can make a list of “crushes” while cruising through the photos, then while out cruising you can “check in” to see if one of your “crushes” has checked in also. If they happen to be nearby, you can text message each other and possibly get together. Zogo works something like online dating, but instead of e-mailing a potential date anonymously, you can speak to them by cell phone through Zogo’s anonymous phone service.

If your current cell phone isn’t equipped with all the required features, you can still date by phone by using SMS. It’s quite simple in that no profiles or photos are involved. Text is just sent to and received from random suitors.

Each mobile dating service works slightly differently, and each has different requirements and costs. Most have a combination of some free features along with a monthly fee. With all that’s available, and more coming, you’re sure to find one that suits your needs and your budget.

(info by Jay Jackson from http://www.mobileguerilla.com/articles/2006/01/10/tech-cell-phone-dating.php)