Relationship expert Pepper Schwartz shares some helpful advice to help you become more successful in your online pursuit:
“Thinking about meeting someone online, but feeling a little nervous? Believe me, you are not the only one. Putting yourself out there takes guts. But based on my personal experience, once you’ve taken the plunge and joined a dating site, you’ll see why this is such a great new option,” Schwartz says.
Here are a few his pointers:
• DO get specific in your online profile.
• DON’T disclose too much personal information.
• DO scratch beneath the surface of the people you meet.
• DON’T sell yourself short. Forget false modesty on the web.
• DON’T tell little white lies. Be honest online because it’s the right thing to do.
• DO look for someone as serious as you are.
• DON’T hog the dialogue. It’s important that you give the other person time to describe him or her.
• DO be positive. Nobody wants to start a dialogue with someone who is mopey and negative.
According to recent data from the U.S. Census Bureau and other research:
We stay single longer
The estimated U.S. median ages at first marriage in 2004 for women and men are 25.8 and 27.4 respectively, an increase of 5 years for women and 4.2 years for men since 1970. There are more than three times as many never-married women and men ages 30 to 34 today as there were in 1970.
The number of older single people is growing
There are 14.9 million unmarried and single Americans aged 65 and older. People aged 50 and older represent the fastest-growing segment of the Match.com community. According to Nielsen//NetRatings, more than 1.6 million men and women aged 65-plus visited online personals sites in April 2000.
Being single doesn’t necessarily mean being alone
There are 12.4 million single parents living with their children. Between 1970 and 2003 the number of single mothers increased from 3 million to 10 million; the number of single fathers increased from less than half a million to 2 million.
Here’s a list of movies with actors who embody the qualities of a great man.
1) Bullit
Starring Steve McQueen and Jacqueline Bisset. See how composed and calm Bullit (Steve McQueen) appears even under the most dangerous and stressful situations. Also, see how he listens and responds to Jackie’s emotional pleadings. Smooth.
2) The Maltese Falcon
Starring Humphrey Bogart. Nobody plays cool private eyes like Humphrey. He’s tough with bad guys and smooth with women. Also watch Humphrey in other movies like Casablanca and The Big Sleep.
3) The Presidio
Starring Mark Harmon, Meg Ryan, and Sean Connery. See how Mark Harmon handles Meg’s Oprah-like melodrama. Sean Connery plays Meg’s father and, despite Sean’s overbearing and intimidating presence, Mark is able to deal with him as an equal.
4) The Thomas Crown Affair
Watch either the old version (the one with Steve McQueen and Faye Dunaway) or the new version (the one with Pierce Brosnan and Renee Russo). See how calm and confident Thomas Crown is.
5) The Count of Monte Cristo
There are different versions of this but one of my favorites is a TV version made in 1974 starring Richard Chamberlain. He embodies the qualities of a real Don Juan. The version that came out in theaters a couple years ago is also good. Also watch the TV miniseries starring Gerard Depardieu.
5) The Scarlet Pimpernel
Starring Leslie Howard (I think). Chivalry and swashbuckling at its finest. Also watch a newer version of The Scarlet Pimpernel with Steve Andrews (I think) and Jane Seymour from 1982.
(info by Lynx)